Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you. – Anne Lamott
Is Prioritizing Yourself Selfish?
This is a common misconception, especially among mothers who often juggle numerous responsibilities. However, taking care of your own needs and well-being is not only necessary but also beneficial for you and those around you.
Understanding the Misconception
The belief that prioritizing oneself is selfish has deep roots in historical, psychological, and cultural perspectives. Understanding these can help redefine what self-prioritization means to you.
- Historical Context: Many religious and philosophical traditions, such as certain interpretations of Christianity, have emphasized altruism and selflessness as virtues. This has led to the idea that putting others first is inherently good.
- Psychological Perspective: Social dynamics have long valued cooperative behavior for community survival. As a result, self-centered actions are often seen as disruptive to group harmony.
- Cultural Norms: In some cultures, people are taught to put the needs of the group before their own, which can make taking care of yourself seem selfish. In other cultures, there’s more focus on the individual, but people still struggle with what society expects from them.
Shifting from Lack to Abundance
The idea that dedicating time to yourself takes away from your loved ones stems from a scarcity mindset. However, when you adopt an abundance mentality, you realize that time spent on yourself multiplies benefits for everyone.
Prioritizing yourself is only selfish if it doesn’t benefit those around you. For example, if your priority is to relax on a wellness weekend getaway, it helps you recharge and return in a better mental and emotional state for your family. This is not selfish; it’s a gift to everyone involved.
The Consequences of Neglecting Yourself
Constantly putting others’ needs before your own can lead to feeling drained, resentful, or burned out. This isn’t the kind of person you want to be, nor is it enjoyable for those around you. No one benefits from an empty cup.
Filling Your Cup: Practical Ways
So, how do you fill up your cup? Here are some activities that can help:
- Self-Care Activities: Dedicate time to yourself with activities like getting a massage, taking a walk in nature, meditating, journaling, or taking a class you enjoy.
- Pursue Passions and Hobbies: Engaging in activities you love provides fulfillment, motivation, and enhances creativity.
- Meaningful Connections: Spend quality time with friends or family. Focus on meaningful interactions rather than gossip or complaints, which can drain energy.
- Continuous Learning: Prioritize learning, as it fosters growth and evolution.
The Ripple Effect of Self-Care
These activities leave you with a full heart, a calm mind, and a relaxed body. From this space, you can support those around you with love, acceptance, and understanding. This is not selfish; it’s essential for family well-being.
Encouragement from Loved Ones
As your loved ones notice these positive changes, they’ll likely encourage you to continue because they benefit too.
Take Action: Prioritize Yourself
I invite you to make a list of your needs and prioritize them. Block out dedicated time each week for these activities and enjoy the transformation!
Thanks for reading and keep growing!
With love,
Nathalia Mahecha
